Happy one month anniversary to us!! I'm not at all purporting to be an expert on marriage after four weeks, but I thought I'd reflect a little bit on how our lives have changed since the wedding.
I DO feel different. Our relationship feels different. I can't exactly put my finger on it, but maybe like it's a little more valid? When I say "my husband," it makes me feel like I have a little bit more cred than before when he was just my boyfriend or fiancé.
I DO feel incredibly lucky that I met Zac when I did. I go to bed way too early to survive on the dating scene, and honestly, I wasn't ever very good at dating. I feel so blessed that Zac and I met when we did and that we're done with all of that.
I DON'T want people to think that we haven't sacrificed anything by meeting when we did. I'm so glad that we met each other young, but doing so came with sacrifices and challenges. We're so lucky to have a wonderful house and great jobs, but those came at a price. We've both given up on things we wanted to do, sacrificed things in our careers, and changed our priorities to make our relationship work. Am I glad we did? Yes. But... it hasn't always been easy.
I DON'T feel like I needed this marriage to be complete. I don't think that my single friends are missing out on one of life's greatest pleasures, or that their lives are any less rich than mine. Being married has been awesome... but I don't think you need to be married to be happy.
What do you think? Whether you're married or not married... any reflections on marriage?
Monday, May 9, 2011
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It's like working your way through the ranks in a job, it's always hard work and being on your toes...never letting things grow stagnant.
ReplyDeleteKids will test your relationship more than it's ever been tested so make sure it's rock solid before they get here!